You know those days when nothing goes your way? The days when the sun beats down on you, but all you feel is biting cold? The days when you’re cocooned in your own despair and shame, and nothing your loved ones do can help?
You do know these days. And you aren’t alone. Coming in second isn’t losing. Failing once doesn’t mean the world is going to end. That one special person ignoring you doesn’t mean you aren’t loved. That person is just missing out.
Sometimes, you aren’t half of what you claim to be. Most times, you’re much more. And if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that you shouldn’t forget you’re worth more than life to someone, somewhere in the world. No one is useless. There are the “uncool”, the underprivileged, the homeless, the sick…whoever you are, you have a purpose. You have the right to live, and to do it on your own terms. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.
It doesn’t matter what you look like- we’re all just skin, bone and flesh moulded in different ways. It doesn’t matter how far you are educated; because clearly an illiterate person with a compassionate heart is far more learned than an unfeeling, snooty scientist. It doesn’t matter what your family history is, because you are your own person. You have the capability to change the world. Whether for the better or the worse, it’s up to you.
So please don’t throw this chance away. Keep breathing. Keep riding the tides of change. Your life isn’t going to be a perpetual cakewalk. But that also means bad times won’t last. There’s this thing called hope. Sometimes we call it “light at the end of the tunnel”, sometimes “the only thing stronger than fear”. Why has the human mind been designed to hope? We are creatures that control our own futures. And a future without goodness, without salvation, without forgiveness, is unimaginable.
Negativity is natural. We have to train ourselves to filter our thoughts, our words, and our actions. We hold our futures, and the futures of others in our hands. We need neither power, nor wealth, to be able to make a difference. Experiences are worth more than material things. Donating to charity puts a person higher on the happiness meter than purchasing a gold-plated toilet.
So invest in others’ satisfaction. Don’t let anyone rule your mind. You are an individual with your own beliefs, values, and heritage, and that’s nobody else’s business. So don’t let them meddle in things that don’t concern them. And take solace in the fact that everything is temporary.
Some will mock you, others will mourn you when you’re gone. Swimming against the current is always harder than going with the flow. The mind is a curious thing, especially in the fact that everyone’s is different. It’s impossible to make everyone happy. So why not begin with only yourself? You are the only one who will always have to live with your decisions. All other naysayers and well-wishers, rewards and setbacks, are immaterial. A will of steel, a considerate disposition, and calculated determination are all you need to overcome all the odds.
So take a stand. Do what you love. Learn to adapt, and to bounce back.
And no matter what, remember you are wanted. 🙂